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Unplanned pregnancy... now what-min

Unplanned Pregnancy…Now What

About 46 percent of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned.  Which would mean that if you are reading this, you have found yourself in that same situation or know of someone who is. Perhaps you or a friend are seeking advice on what to do next.

When facing an unplanned pregnancy, the first thing that happens is that you are in a state of disbelief.  Maybe such disbelief that t is hard to know exactly what to do next.  When in disbelief, we just want it to go away. The crisis like situation that was not planned for certainly can be overwhelming and even isolating.  It can be difficult to think through what to do next or where to go from here.

While going through this, it is essential to seek out professional information and consider all your options.  It is also essential to take the time to research, seek professional resources, weigh pros and cons, self-reflect and ask yourself specific questions.  Good decisions are not usually quick decisions and not meant to be made alone.

You have 3 choices in your unplanned pregnancy: abortion, parenting or adoption.  Each of those choices are life altering and require you to fully understand each one. You may experience having a fear of telling others and fear of judgment. You most likely have a lot of questions.

  • What kind of abortion procedure would I have, how much does it cost, and what are the risks involved?
  • What does my current support system look like to make each of these choices?
  • What are the risks medically, physically and emotionally of each choice and what is the long term impact?
  • What resources are available to me to make these choices?

You owe it to yourself, your future, and your unborn baby to slow down and make a healthy decision.

I recall facing an unplanned pregnancy at the age of eighteen.   I had recently graduated from high school and left home to live with friends.  I had my agenda of attending college and living “La Vida Loca”.  Finding out that I was pregnant, I was afraid of what people would think or say, especially after leaving my home without my parent’s approval.  I was not in the right place with the father of the baby and did not have a healthy support system.  However, I knew I was at a crossroad of what to do and believed there was only one solution: abortion.

I decided I needed to speak to someone about my unplanned pregnancy.  While driving, I saw a clinic and called and made an appointment to be seen and weigh all my options.  Upon arriving, I felt scared and wondered what they were going to think of seeing a young girl pregnant.  I wondered what they would think about me wanting to have an abortion. What I experienced was quite the opposite where I felt welcomed and not judged.  These strangers provided professional services like an ultra sound and genuinely cared and helped me lay out all three options.

I felt empowered and encouraged, and by the end of that evening, I choose to have my baby and parent.  I was not aware of how I was going to pull this off, but I knew abortion and adoption were not for me.  Twenty-five years later, that has been one of the best decisions that I made.  What seemed to be the worst time in my life brought a great outcome for me. Today I have a son and I can’t imagine my life without him.

Here at Choices Women’s Clinic, we can first provide professional medical services to help you assess your options like ultrasound, a medical consultation and a pre-abortion screening.  We equip women and men to make an informed pregnancy decision. We believe and respect the fact that each person is capable of making a healthy decision when given the proper information. We are here for you regardless of your circumstances or your decisions. Choices Women’s Clinic can provide no cost medical services, non-judgmental consultation and resources to answer any questions and address any issues you may be facing with an unplanned pregnancy.



Abortion Safety Protocol-min

Abortion Safety Protocol

So, you have missed a period. You took a home test and you are pretty sure you are pregnant. Maybe you have seen a doctor, and they confirmed your pregnancy. You are pregnant and you have your reasons why you can’t have a baby right now.  So, you’ve decided to get an abortion.

We get it. Not all positive pregnancy tests feel like good news. Sometimes it actually can feel more like your whole world is falling apart. It’s hard, you see no way out or through.  Maybe it is plain scary and overwhelming.  You might feel like you have to make a decision right away before anyone finds out and before things get even more out of control.

First, take a deep breath. In all situations in life we need time to consider the risks or some say the pros and cons of the decision.  Often when we make a rushed decision, we put ourselves in unsafe situations. You deserve to be safe and healthy regardless of your choice for this unplanned pregnancy.  Take a breath.  You don’t have to rush out and do anything right this minute. Here are some questions and answers that will help you be safe and make informed choices.

Have you confirmed your pregnancy? The very first thing you need to know is if you’re really pregnant. At Choices Women’s Clinic, we offer lab-quality urine tests to verify your pregnancy. We can also offer you an ultrasound at no cost to you through licensed medical professionals.  An ultrasound is the best way to know if you have a viable pregnancy, since a high percentage of pregnancies will miscarry. The ultrasound also shows how far along you are, which is important in determining which abortion procedure you would have.  Even if you’ve taken a pregnancy test, it’s important to confirm with a medical professional that you’re still pregnant.

In your decision-making process for your health and safety consider the following:

Are there risks involved with an abortion procedure?  Like any medical procedure, an abortion  involves the possibility of some risk.  It’s important that you know your family medical history and your own medical history, and that you research potential risks before making your decision.  Get information from reliable, trusted medical sources or ask a medical professional who has nothing to gain from your decision.

Do you know the qualifications of the abortion provider?  Not all surgeons or doctors have the same experience and expertise.  Equally, not all abortion providers are the same.  As consumers today, we have availability today to research the products we buy and the services we seek.  You would want to know if the doctor performing the procedure is a board-certified OB/GYN.  You might want to check with the FL medical board to see if the physician is involved in any malpractice suits or has judgments against them.

Do you know how the provider handles complications?  When having a medical procedure in a clinic, we need ask how that medical provider handles complications.  A few considerations would be: Does the doctor have privileges at a nearby hospital?  Does the clinic have an emergency plan in place to address complications?  If you have complications once you have been discharged will they see you again and treat you?

Do you know that you can change your mind?  This is your choice.  You can change your mind at any time regardless of where you are in the procedure.  Abortion is a big decision.  You should be absolutely certain this is what you want to do. If you feel pushed or hesitant, you have the right to take the time you need to take a step back and take more time to think it through.

Choices Women’s Clinic cares about you and your safety and well-being. This might be a difficult, overwhelming time, but you don’t have to face this alone. We’re here to listen and give you any information you need to make safe, healthy decisions.

What an abusive relation looks like

What an Abusive Relationship Looks Like

Her side:

Since we’re little girls we begin to dream of a fairytale-like love story, the prince comes to sweep us away and we live happily ever after. We are strongly influenced by the stories we see in romantic movies, but what happens when the guy you once fell in love with begins to show a different side? A side of him that you weren’t familiar with and that love and trust turns into fear?

Many of us believe that if we were ever caught in a situation where our lives were in jeopardy we would quickly react and step away from what can harm us. The toughest thing about abusive relationships that entangle us to stay is the bond and relationship we’ve built during the time that the abusive behaviors were withheld. The feeling of dependency is hard to break.

When we think of abusive relationships, most assume it’s physical. Abusive relationships go beyond physical touch. In fact, emotional abuse is very common. The abuser can be disguised as someone who you wouldn’t consider to be harmful and easy on the eye. Here is a list of behaviors and characteristics that may help you to understand what an abusive relationship looks like:

  • Tries to humiliate or harass you
  • Constantly belittles you, calls you names
  • Extremely moody
  • Isolating you from friends and family
  • Criticizes the way you dress, speak, priorities, beliefs, etc.
  • Is unfaithful
  • Is unreasonably jealous
  • Subjects you to feeling guilty
  • Makes everything your fault
  • Throws and breaks things around you, sometimes punches walls or slams doors
  • May have a history of child abuse

From experience, I can remember being surrounded by many and yet felt so lonely. I thought I was being strong by staying in the relationship and not giving up until I was able to take a step back and see that the strongest thing I could do was to walk away from the toxic relationship.

His side:

As a young man we dream of finding the “Mrs. Right.” A woman whom is supportive, loving, kind, and one you’d feel good taking home to show your mother. So what happens when your significant other isn’t what you expected?

We’d all like to think we would have it under control, but when objects are thrown or you’re being physically assaulted, with her threatening to call the police and tell them you hit her, what can you do?

First let’s try and identify some traits that send up red flags.

  • Is every argument your fault?
  • Do they put you down to make themselves feel better?
  • Are you constantly striving to win their affection but find it to be an endless battle?
  • Is there anger beyond out of control or normal circumstances?
  • Has infidelity been an issue?
  • Are they constantly jealous? Or over possessive?

Try evaluating these things. Never try to justify someone else’s actions. Furthermore, ask a loved one or someone close for help. While it’s often you may have the feeling that you can’t leave due to your bond, life is better beyond this unhealthy relationship.

Whichever side you may be on, if you find yourself involved in an abusive relationship remember that you are not alone and there are resources out there. Reach out to a relative, a friend, or you can call Choices Women’s Clinic and we will do our best to provide more information about getting the support and resources you need.